The Sher Family

Photo Shoot

2011-08-20T22:45:00.000-05:00

Here is a glimpse of the Sutton's newborn photo shoot.

Arrival of Sutton James

2011-08-16T00:00:00.004-05:00

So the Sher name will live on. Meeting the world on July 25th, 2011 at 9:52, Mr. Sutton came in weighing a flat 8 pounds. Looking remarkably like his older sister, he stole our hearts immediately.

With the help of KK and Grandmommy, as well as all of our wonderful friends that came to visit and provide us dinner for over two weeks, we are back at home and adjusting to being a family of 4 (I mean 5 with Petie).

As far as the name goes; with a dog named Petie and a son named Sutton, one would think our family was a bunch of hicks...I mean aggies...I mean pokes. But the reality is we just liked the "ring" to it...even if Coach Sutton has never won a championship ring for himself! James, of course, is derived from Heather's dad, James Charles Hill, who although is not here to enjoy the diapers and spit up, is indeed still very much a part of our lives. We are excited to carry his memory through our little boy!

For the record, Sutton was Sooner Born and will be Sooner Bred! As all little boys should be.

Ellison's Announcement

2011-02-05T16:11:00.002-06:00

Now that we are back in the spirit of blogging, we needed to make our most exciting news a blog entry!

That's right- Ellison will be a big sister at the end of July!

Rob and I could not be more excited that our family is growing and are looking forward to watching Ellie as she enters into this new phase. There had already been lots of talk about "babies"with Ellie as our dear friends Brad and Ashley and Emily and Rob are expecting in May so we have been praying for baby Cunningham and baby Garrett for months and talking about their new additions. Needless to say "baby" is a popular word in her vocabulary.

With all of our family in town for Christmas, we got to share the big news with them on Christmas day.

We never cease to be amazed at how God plans accordingly, and surrounds us with friends to encourage, support and celebrate life with.

Now, we are eagerly trying to sell our home, as our new home should be ready come late March. I am thankful we took the leap of faith to build this new home before knowing we were going to need the space so soon.

From Paradise to the Snowmageden

2011-02-02T13:20:00.012-06:00

As you may recall, about 11 months ago I wrote about the trip to Manzanillo that Heather and I (along with 3 other couples) purchased at a charity auction for the Tulsa Junior League. Well the trip finally arrived, and it could not have been any more perfect. Traveling with some of our good friends, the Hulvers, the Buchans, and the Cains, we were excited to be together for seven days. Not only was the timing perfect (as we missed the frigid cold of Oklahoma) but so was the view, staff, and company we enjoyed it with. Especially the view. Quite impressive sunsets, whale watching, and ocean as far as you could see.

Here is an example of one of the many sunsets we enjoyed. Being about 150 miles south of Puerta Vallarta, each evening we would gather on the deck which overlooked the Pacific Ocean and would watch this fantastic setting take place. We could literally, turn around after the sunset, and watch the moon rise above the mountains. It was incredible.

The week was filled full of activities such as eating breakfast, napping, laying out, eating appetizers, swimming, reading, heading to the beach, eating dinner, and enjoying many, many drinks.

Actually one day, we did declare it "activity day" and the guys headed out to the sea to catch dinner (deep sea fish) while the ladies took in a massage. So we headed out before sunrise, about 6:30, and took the ship called "Luckiest" out into the deep blue sea. Not terribly confident that we would be catching anything any time soon, we took in the view and the marine life. Quite incredible was the dolphin show.

On both sides of the boats, we watched as no less than 10 dolphins swam next to us. Looking for where the seagulls would dive bomb into the ocean, our captain indicated that is where the fish were. Within our half day of fishing we were able to pull in two Mahi-Mahi, totalling about 55 pounds.

So as the rough and wild hunter/fisherman we are, we gladly turned our backs as they skinned the fish, and bagged the meat for us to take home. And it was unbelievable to think that within two hours of catching that fish, we were eating some of it for appetizers.

In fact, our staff prepared the Mahi-Mahi three different ways: Grilled, Fried for Fish Tacos, and then filet as a dinner entree.

And let me tell you a little bit about this food. First off, I gained seven pounds; seriously. This food was incredible. Typically we would have breakfast, "botanas" (appetizers), and then dinner. These botanas were probably my favorite. With the fresh guacamole and salsa everyday as well as homemade tortillas and homemade chips, I was in paradise. The staff could literally take a simple dish and make it extraordinary. From nachos, empanadas, tacos (chicken, pork, fish), quesadillas, fresh veggies, chicken, shrimp and did I mention the guacamole and homemade chips?

Dinners were always an affair to dress up for. In fact, the dress code was pretty strict. And as you can see, the guys took it very seriously. I am fairly certain this was a highlight for the ladies. In fact, if I recall correctly (which I don't) we only dressed like this because the ladies begged us to do so. During these three course meals, I was impressed not only with the quality but also the presentation. From the fresh flowers on the table to way the food was laid out, it was always done with a lot of pride. We were able to enjoy fresh shrimp, steak, Mahi-Mahi, and the desserts...WOW: Carrot Cake, Banana Cream Pie, Chocalate Cake, Flaun and Banana Foster with Ice Cream.

So relaxation was the key. The staff was incredible. Wouldn't even have to leave your raft to have a drink. I can only imagine that we firmly secured the impression of "lazy Americans".

And while the ladies would catch the afternoon rays, the guys would play hours of cards. I am proud to say that Jake and I took home the spades championship.

Also, amazing was the private beach we got to use. Literally private. Of the five times we visited, three times we were the only eight folks out there. Pretty sweet to have that much beach all to yourself!

The water was cool, clear, and very very salty. It was nice to cool down from the 85 degree heat, and beaming sun. It was a great trip. It was hard to come back from. We are so grateful for the grandparents taking in Ellie for ten days! And a shout out to Brad and Ashley for taking care of Mr. Petie for us.

Making us miss it all the more is the the Tulsa Snowpacalypse 2011. Eighteen inches of snow I measured in our front yard; absolutely incredible. Today I am waiting for the temperature to reach its high of 12 degrees before shoveling the drive. So as we are stuck indoors, watching hours of Elmo and Sesame Street, we are longing for our Manzanillo days. Maybe in a few years we will make it back.

Gosh, My Apologies

2011-01-10T23:43:00.007-06:00

Especially for many of our friends that don't live in our home-town of Tulsa, we utilize the blog to keep up with what's going on in their lives. It is an opportunity for us to share life with one another even though there are miles between us. Thus, my apologies that is has been so long since our last entry.

Though it is no excuse, life has been pretty hectic the past few months. Of course the Holidays, and all that they have to offer with travels, family, and special events. However, on top of that, here is a small glimpse of some of the other time consuming events we have recently experienced. First the sad passing of my beloved 2002 Yukon. After being hit by a driver who had his brakes fail and ran a red light, I was left counting my blessings that I had just dropped Ellie off at school and that no one was critically hurt.

Also in that time frame our family has been busy planning and building a new home (set to be complete in Mid-March). Thus, we are just about to put our current home on the market. Anyone know of someone looking for a great home in Jenks, America; please send them our way.

Especially important was the Sunday morning we baptized Ms. Ellison Kate. Ellison did a great job in front of family, friends and our church, being presented as a Child of God. Our good friend and Pastor, Spencer Smith, wonderfully dedicated and prayed over Ellison. Not really an infant baptism, seeing that Ellie was nearly 16 months old, but it was a special day nonetheless. Pictured here are Ellie's God-Parents, Aaron and Emily Walton.

Also, not to forget, the Sher's are big on celebrating Fall Harvest. That means there were trips to the Pumpkin Patch, Trick or Treating, and Thanksgiving in Norman. Ellie was not real sure as to the need to dress up and go ask for candy; however she was a big fan of the pumpkins and ponies at the patch.

Then there is OU football of course. From the home games where we tailgated to the road trips, where we have a habit of losing. Especially unfulfilling was the trip to Columbia. Although the company was great, once again, the Sooners were quite the let down when on the road. Add to the weekend a very sick Rob, and I was pretty unenjoyable the entire time. Seeing how we lost the game, the signs we discovered at GameDay were fairly appropriate (I can say that now OU has kicked their BCS slump to the curb)

Heather promises she is going to try and keep this blog updated more than we have of recently. We hope to keep our end of the bargain.

Daddy's Girl

2010-09-08T22:39:00.003-05:00

So it has been way too long since we have posted. We were without a camera for a bit, and what is a blog without pics, right? But we have since gotten it repaired, so we are back in action. And although we don't have the pictures to show for it, much has happened in the past few weeks. So where to begin???

We now have a full fledged walking monster on our hands. Perfecting the walk, and even the run, this chunky monkey loves to discover everything that is within her purview.

From her new swing set to the bubble machine, she loves discovering her new talents. She gave crawling a valiant effort for about 3 weeks, but was persistent in attempting the walk. Many shiners later, she is more and more stable every day.And what do I mean by chunky monkey, this girl can eat! Her belly sticks out like her dads....and she is not shy about showing it off. Pictured here with her cousin Preston, these two had a lot of fun in one of Tulsa's splash parks.

Now capable of feeding herself complete from her own plate and all, she is really good about eating all her dinner.
However, she still has to be supervised during her meals, if not she will attempt to put all the food in her mouth without swallowing. Give her one cookie, it goes in the mouth. Give her three cookies, all three attempt to be placed in the mouth at the same time!

We also had a fun trip to Branson with the Sher family, and survived the heat. It was hilarious to take in all that Branson has to offer: a show, Silver Dollar City, Andy's custard, and of course some golf. Aunt Kristen, may have enjoyed it the most! My brother drew actually had to remind her at one point during the show that the audience did not pay to hear her sing (as she was belting it out to some Beach Boys!)

Never in my wildest dream did I think I would have so much fun with a someone so small. Even with a vocabulary of just a few words (although she certainly tries to say more; and does have full conversations in jibberish) her personality is bigger than this world. Whether it be holding my finger as we walk into school or patting her back when she goes down for the night, I cherish every minute. Some of my favorites include bath time, bubbles in the back yard, riding in the car, swinging or dancing to music. However, what I probably love the most, and certainly cannot get enough of, are those kisses. Now able to fulfill the request by simply asking, I usually get about 10 kisses in the morning as we walk from the car to the school; simply love it. So thankful that our Creator gave us such a fun, loving, spirited and beautiful little girl!

It's My Wife's Fault

2010-07-20T22:14:00.003-05:00

Sorry it has been so long since our last post. And really, it IS Heather's fault. As many of you know, Heather is not the most careful person when it comes to handling electronics (like her iPhone or the camera). In fact, she has managed to break both of them. Well her iPhone has been replaced, but I am working on trying to persuade Sony that the Camera should be under warranty....some 18 mos after purchase. Thus, we have no camera...therefore no pics, and what is a blog without pics, right? (Now an admission on my part, I was the one that ruined the camera previous to this one. We like to wait about 2 months after the manufacturer's warranty to test the limits)

So here are at least a few of the phone pics we have managed to salvage.

Let's start with the 4th of July. It was so darn hot, yet we fired up the grill (and by we, I mean the Waltons, and by grill I mean the Hasty Bake). In fact, we have been a bit hasty bake crazy over the past few weeks succumbing to the pressure of Trey Cooper. But when you see what this thing is able to cook up, it makes a good case for itself.

And the grill was not the only thing smokin that day. Check out this little chickie babe:

We also lucked out that one of my best friends, Ryan Fulda, loves to take pics with his high tech camera. So while at his baby shower, he took some great pics of our little princess. Thanks Ryan, and can't wait for Kinley's arrival any day now.

We also made it to the lakehouse to see the entire family. However, we are at the mercy of the family to send us some pics since the camera was already in it's handicapped state. Hopefully we can show some of those images soon, as we had a great time spending time relaxing and playing with all the kiddos.

Sher Sweet Shoppe

2010-06-21T22:52:00.002-05:00

For those of you who know my wife, also know that she was not raised to throw a simple party. Whether we have folks over to watch an OU Football game or friends over for dinner, it always turns into an "event." So why then was I surprised when the decorations, props and candy started rolling into the Sher home about 10 days prior to Ellison's birthday party?

Let me tell you, on this first birthday party, Heather outdid herself. The theme was the 'Sher Sweet Shoppe' so everybody had their pickings of candy, cookies, cupcakes, candy-bars, gum-balls, and cookie mix. It was quite the spread. The weather cooperated (if 90 degree heat with 90% humidity is cooperation...but it did not rain) and the moon bounce was a hit. Really the whole thing was quite the spectacle.

To be honest, many a times, it will drive me crazy the efforts my wife will go when hosting friends. Never is it simple, never is it easy. However, I also love the pride she takes in entertaining. And in this case, she put countless hours in researching, planning, shopping (under budget) and ultimately pulling off one spectacular birthday party.

There were many friends that helped us pull off the event, allowing us to borrow party decorations, ideas, and even a moon bounce, however none more so than Alissa Adams. Alissa's ability to be creative never ceases to amaze. She created the beautiful invitations as well as took so many great pictures. Alissa thank you for all of your hard work! Also, Mary Catherine Ward- we couldn't have pulled it off without your generosity and creativity!

It was a packed house, and it was fun to see all the kids that came to celebrate. We truly are so blessed to have so many great friends here in Tulsa, Oklahoma City and Norman. It was great to see so many of you!

Shiner

2010-06-08T22:13:00.000-05:00

Just in case you thought that helmet comment on the last post was said in sarcasm, check out the shiner that was on Ellison's noggin when I picked her up from school yesterday.

You may be thinking, "Dang, that looks like it hurts." I, on the other hand, was left thinking, "Dang, we are definitely paying too much for her school, if she is coming home looking like this."

Needless to say, I was unimpressed.

Crawling...Finally Crawling

2010-06-04T23:37:00.001-05:00

So there has been a debate in our house regarding our nearly one year old and her refusal to crawl. Rather than the expected, "is our baby girl a bit on the slow side?", the debate was on our desire for her to crawl.

Heather has been in "training mode" for about 3 months, trying to get Ellie to crawl. I, on the other hand, have been content being able to sit in the recliner and watch Ellie, without having to chase her around the house, without having to baby proof every room and every outlet, without having to worry about what trouble she would get into when she was mobile. Well, as of this week, she is crawling.

Although, it appears this won't be the case for very long. She definitely prefers the full out walk...one problem...balance. How important is balance you ask; well, only important for those kids that don't want to look abused. Ellison has a tendency to attempt the walk and end up crashing on the ground. Her forehead has become a routine stop for bruises and marks. As a result of this lack of stability, I am always fearful, based on my previous experiences, that I will run into a DHS or District Attorney, and get prosecuted for the bruises that are consistently on her head. I am tempted to find a helmet for her to wear on a consistent basis.

Prior to the disabling heat that we are now experiencing, Ellie and I got to spend some time in the back yard. After school, we would take off our shoes and examine the grass in the back yard. One immediate lesson learned was that the grass was more forgiving than the patio when it came to our falls. Not to mention that the grass tasted better too!

So back to the crawl. It appears that she is capable, although not terribly interested. Rather, she wants to stand up, walk, and demonstrate her independence.

As a result, she is pulling up on everything. And as long as she has something to hold on to she can walk pretty well. She definitely prefers, if available, mommy or daddy's hands, as they make the best crutches.

In fact, we have recently walked into her room, when she was "taking a nap" and we discovered that she was standing full out, jumping up and down, giggling, and loving the rail that allows her to walk the entire length of the crib. So much for our baby girl being much of a baby anymore.

Cousin Marshall's Birthday

2010-05-16T23:14:00.000-05:00

Last week we had the chance to go to San Antonio to celebrate Ellison's cousin, Marshall's, first birthday. So we jumped on the plane at 7:00 AM on Friday, which for the Shers (including Ellie) is very early.

Fighting her sleep all the way to San Antonio, once we finally got her into the car (at noon) she was asleep before we were off airport property. By Saturday, the rest of the family had arrived. Together with all 5 of the cousins, we were able to see the amazing relationship already beginning to develop. Ellison looking up to Addie, Addie adoring Bella. Though separated by years and miles, it is amazing to see the love they have for each other, even at such a young age.

Whether it was playing in the sandbox, taking baths, or sharing spaghetti, it was really fun seeing these kiddos interacting. Of course, Barrett, the oldest, had more fun schooling Uncle Rob on the Wii then anything else.

Besides watching Marshall take his first bites of cake, the funniest story developed from bath time. Knowing that Marshall and Ellie would't always be able to share bath time, we thought it would be fun to get them splashing around together. Towards the end of the bath, it was more than smile and giggles being deposited. With a very serious and determined impression on his face, Marshall inadvertently cut bath time short with a couple of pushes. Out from underneath his body came a "floatie" that caused tears of laughter.

It is always so much fun to have the cousins all together. So glad we were able to be apart of such a fun weekend. I can not believe Marshall is already one, and likewise, that we are already planning a first birthday party for our own little princess. We also want to wish Happy First Birthdays to Preston Clark and Griffin Garrett!

holly and darren's wedding weekend!

2010-05-10T21:42:00.004-05:00

Holly and Darren's wedding will take quite a few posts because it was a full weekend of celebrating this exciting time for our family. To kick off the weekend, we enjoyed one last evening together with Holly's closest girlfriends over a delicious dinner at Blu in Norman. Thank you to all of Holly's sweet friends who made not only this evening but the entire weekend so memorable. Holly has been given such sweet friends that I have grown to love and adore over the years! We had such fun reminiscing of all the great memories these friends have shared together and I know there are many more to come.

easter

2010-05-10T21:28:00.001-05:00

So we are a little late in posting our fun Easter weekend but we had some super sweet pictures of Ellison and her cousin Addison that we had to share. We had a fun Easter weekend in Tulsa and were so thankful our family came up to share it with us. Uncle Drew, Aunt Jill, and cousin Addie came up on Friday followed by KK, Aunt Holly, and her fiance Darren. Following a wonderful service at church and an Easter celebration in community, we enjoyed lunch together at home. Rob fired up the grill and the weather was gorgeous! And no Easter is complete without the annual scavenger hunt. My mom (and the Easter bunny) has always made Easter so special by leading us on a super fun and creative scavenger hunt. It has always been one of Holly and I's favorite memories from growing up and was just as fun this year as all the years before.

Praise Baby

2010-04-14T22:33:00.008-05:00

If you have never heard of the Praise Baby video collection, and you have an infant-toddler, then let me let you in on a little secret...these are one of God's very special gifts to parents. Heather and I don't let Ellison watch much TV yet; although I have caught a few episodes of Sesame Street and find myself entertained, as well as educated...I digress...

However, we have relied on Praise Baby for many months now. It was a very thoughtful gift from our dear friends the Hartsock's and Marilene Long, which happens to be the mother of Ellison's godmother, Emily (confused yet)? I will admit, when we received the gift I did give a very dramatic roll of the eyes, but I soon became a believer and as you will soon see, a promoter of the video. The PB videos show bright colors, animals, numbers and shapes all set the to tune of praise music. What a great way to teach Ellie the songs of worship; and equally important, she is enthralled by it.

She literally can be fussy, exhausted, hungry, and even a few times, screaming (traits that I suggest she gets from the maternal side), but when the music starts she is mesmerized, stoic, and content (of course, traits that come from her paternal side). To increase the fun, Ellie recently received a microphone from Grandmommy and Granddad and has flawlessly incorporated her own singing along with the video.
She is so hooked to this video, referred to as the "hymnal" by Granddad, that we loaded one of the videos on to heather's iphone and on to my blackberry, so we always have mobile praise baby in case of a melt down. I highly recommend you check it out. Once you are convinced, and you will be convinced, that this is the best thing since white bread, you can send your referral fees in care of "Ellison's Tuition Fund."

More to come soon, as we had a wonderful visit with cousin Addie, Uncle Drew and Aunt Jill, Aunt Holly, KK, and "soon-to-be-Uncle Darren."

Happy Easter

2010-03-29T22:08:00.002-05:00

This past weekend we began our celebration of Easter a bit early. With Easter Egg "Hunts" on both Friday and Saturday, it was fun getting together with friends to share these memories. I use the word "hunt" lightly, as Ellison is still too young to comprehend why we are sitting her on the ground with a bunch of colorful, plastic, round, noise makers, typically filled with things she is not allowed to put in her mouth. Needless to say, this year's hunts were still probably more for Heather and I than they were for Ellie!

With the first hunt taking place at our church, Asbury United Methodist, we gathered with about oh maybe 1,000 or so folks, and partook in the madness. Saturday was a bit less occupied, but just as much of an event. Located inside and out of the beautiful home of our friends, the Hulvers, this is one "hunt" that I look forward to each year. It was fun to see the four or five other families who were pregnant last year, along with us, who now were in attendance with the new babies.

So as Lent draws to an end, and we enter into Holy Week, I hope each of you will celebrate the Sacrifice and the Resurrection that laid the foundation for this upcoming Easter Sunday. We are thankful for our friends, family, and church that have continued to encourage our Spirits and challenge our Faith. I pray you have those in your lives that do the same for you.

Margin

2010-03-02T22:36:00.014-06:00

The past two weeks I led a discussion in our Community group about how most of us live Margin-Less lives. For this discussion, margin is the amount available beyond that which is necessary. I remember listening to this message live about a year back when Craig Groeschel spoke on the subject at Life Church. Simply put, the normal approach to life is not working. Society teaches us that being busy is productive. Society defines happiness as "having more than you have." And as a result we find ourselves stretched to max, financially and with our time. Normal is living in debt, having monthly payments, living beyond our means. Normal is filling up our schedules, being on the go, and sacrificing our relationships to make our schedules work. We need to start living differently, because normal is not working.

2 Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is–his good, pleasing and perfect will. Romans 12:2

15 Be very careful, then, how you live–not as unwise but as wise,16 making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil.17 Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord's will is. Ephesians 5:15-17

Instead of living lives at full speed, it is important that we create our schedules to allow for us to (1) spend time seeking God's will, and (2) spend time resting in God's presence.

33 But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Matthew 6:33

Similarly, we have to stop living beyond our means. Instead of chasing what the world teaches us is success, we need to strive to be content with that which God has already blessed us with.

6 But godliness with contentment is great gain.7 For we brought nothing into the world, and we can take nothing out of it.8 But if we have food and clothing, we will be content with that.9 People who want to get rich fall into temptation and a trap and into many foolish and harmful desires that plunge men into ruin and destruction. 10 For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs. 1 Timothy 6:6-10

The truth is, we may not have time for the things we "say" are important, but we make time for the things we believe are important AND we may "say" we wish we had more money to give, but in reality we spend our money on the things that give value. Where our time and money are spent, there our heart is also. By requiring ourselves to realign our desires with God's will for our lives, then our time and our money will also be realigned.

Margin is better, because with Margin we have the ability and flexibility to respond to the call of the Kingdom. We are in tune with the Father to know whether something is a distraction of the world or an interruption from Heaven. In Asbury's current sermon series, Be Generous, we learn that we cannot be generous if we have already fully committed all of our time and all of our money. But with Margin, we can pray about where to give, where to serve, and how to make a difference.

Margin is hard for me, especially with time. But even more difficult is contentment. Contentment has to be one of my fatal flaws. I continually struggle with how much is enough and always striving for more. Considering all the blessings that have been poured out unto me and my family, I know I have acted ungrateful, selfish, and greedy. I truly need to be reminded, daily, not to conform any longer to the patterns of this world, but to rather live carefully and wisely, so that I may seek first His Kingdom and find contentment with His blessings.

valentines day surprise

2010-02-25T11:28:00.003-06:00

This was probably one of the most special and memorable Valentines Day yet! And surprisingly enough, it was not spent with Rob and I having a nice dinner just the two of us. We decided on this day of celebrating love, we would surprise mom in Norman for lunch. With the help from our favorites, Lori and Steve Lindsey, we were able to pull it off! Mom was planning on joining them for lunch after church and when they all arrived, there we were. It was such a blessing for us to be able to do this for mom and hopefully she was blessed in return! A special thanks to Lori and Steve for their help, a delicious lunch, and Ellison's sweet bear.

That same weekend we also got to see JoePa and MeMaw on Friday night as they watched Ellison for us so we could attend our Covenant Valentines Dinner. Then Sunday night, Grandmommy and Grandad came up to watch El on Monday for President's day. We are so thankful for fabulous grandparents who spoil us with their presence in Ellison's life.

Rob and I attended our annual Valentines Chickfila dinner the night before. If you remember from last year, Chickfila hosts an evening complete with a waiter, table linens, live music, three course meal, and of course, the cow! We had such fun last year, we decided to attend again with Ellison. Unfortuately, I forgot my camera so no pictures to document Ellie's first Valentines day dinner. Such a terrible mom!

So Charitable

2010-02-24T22:22:00.004-06:00

So a couple of weekends back we attended the Junior League of Tulsa's fundraiser, Decadence. The event and auction benefit local community service projects here in the Tulsa Area. Through the event last year we met some really fun friends, and have since made this an annual tradition. This year the event was held at the Summit Club in downtown Tulsa, which provides a spectacular view of the city.

Adding to the fun this year were our good friends Brad and Ashley Cunningham. We are so stoked that the Cunninghams moved from Dallas to Tulsa, and have been so excited to introduce them to many of our friends here. With no exception, we enjoyed introducing them to our very fun friends we met through Junior League. In fact, many a time I wonder what real benefit Heather being apart of Junior League really has (both for her and the community); but if nothing else, we have formed some tremendous friendships.

Now, being the very considerate and generous persons that we are, we, along with three other couples (Cains, Buchans, and Hulvers) decided to bid on the main event...and to our surprise, we won. Now you would have thought that between the 5 attorneys in the group we could have figured out some loop-hole that allowed us an out; but none of us were up for too much quick thinking that night.

So, as a result, the four couples will be traveling to Manzanillo Mexico where we will reside in one of the La Punta Villas. For seven nights we will be pampered by the house staff of 5, enjoying both the beach front views and a private pool. Now clearly, never in my right mind did I expect that we would win this item; but as Heather says, it is for a good cause. So I guess, if it makes someone else's life better, then I can rough it in Mexico. La Punta, meet Roberto Jose!

fun with friends

2010-02-24T21:49:00.001-06:00

we had a wonderful weekend including a fun saturday with my dear friends from college and their little ones. it has been such fun experiencing "firsts" with my friends and their babies as there has been 5 babies born in less than a year within this group! we greatly appreciated lauren, emily, cari, traci, and kinsey making the road trip up here and jamie opening her new, beautiful home to host our get together. it will be such fun as the babies grow older together and can really play! as always, we try and get a quick photo of the group. this is always such a task but emily was able to capture one. unfortunately, campbell snuck away from the photo shoot and took a nasty fall into workout equipment leading to a trip to the ER. we are so thankful she is okay- had to include the pic of this tough little girl. looking forward to being all back together again!

snowed in

2010-01-30T14:03:00.001-06:00

As most of our other Oklahoma friends, this weekend was spent in doors after the "Blizzard of 2010." Part of me was glad to see the snow, as we missed the "Christmas Blizzard of 2009," and I was also glad that we got less ice than expected, but more snow than predicted. Tulsa ended up with over 6 inches of snow!

Heather had planned on being in Dallas this weekend for the baby shower of our good friends the Cavazos, but I had to lay down the law, after my normal 15 minute commute downtown took over an hour on Friday. I was amazed at all the snow. So as soon as I got back home, I got Ellie all bundled up and took her out to see the snow for herself. She was impressed for about 1 minute, then ready to return to the warmth of the indoors.

We also always laugh at how much of a priss our little Petie is. He tends to be very cautious in the snow. He makes multiple attempts to avoid the snow, and then, only after careful examination of the area, he prances in the snow, not know exactly how to behave.

So being snowed in is cool for about half a day, but then cabin fever sets in.

great wolf lodge

2010-01-30T13:24:00.001-06:00

Since we didn't get to celebrate Christmas with the Sher/Kerr clan, we met up in Grapevine, Texas at the Great Wolf Lodge to ring in the New Year! Grapevine was the perfect location for us to meet up and of course, the kids LOVED all that Great Wolf had to offer. We look forward to going back someday when Ellison is more entertained by water slides and MagiQuest but until then, Rob and I enjoy stepping into our aunt and uncle role and taking our nieces and nephew around the water park. Ellison has become quite the little water baby and had fun splashing in the wave pool with her Aunt Sarah, Tanya, and Jill. We also packed into one of the suites for our Christmas gift exchange....15 people + tons of gifts = a fun and memorable time! We cherish anytime we are able to get the whole family together and look forward to seeing everyone again soon. Thanks Grandmommy and Granddad for an exciting weekend!

a tulsa christmas

2010-01-30T12:57:00.002-06:00

Prior to our vacation in Naples, we hosted our first family Christmas in Tulsa with KK and Holly! We enjoyed a wonderful dinner at Trula while our dear friends, the Walton's, watched Ellison. After dinner, we headed back to the house to open gifts. Ellison was very entertained by the sparkly ribbon and even participated in unwrapping her presents! We enjoyed lots of laughs- especially with mom's "silly gift" she always surprises Rob with and even some tears as we each received a letter from mom and dad. It was by far the most special gift we could have received!

our "white christmas" in naples!

2010-01-29T18:13:00.010-06:00

This year we were blessed with a wonderful Christmas in Naples, Florida! While everyone was snowed in in Oklahoma, we were enjoying our "white Christmas" on the white sandy beaches of Florida in the 70 degree weather. It was wonderful! We went with my family and thoroughly enjoyed our time with KK, Holly, and her fiance, Darren. We stayed in a beautiful home allowing us some much needed R&R and time away.

our home away from home

While we were away we enjoyed fine dining, shopping, exploring Naples, a bay cruise, and time at the beach. Ellison got to experience many firsts while we were away like flying on an airplane, playing at the beach, sleeping with mom and dad, splashing in the hot tub, bathtime with mom, and celebrating Christmas!

a few of my favorites (okay, a lot of my favorites!)

Ellison wasn't quite sure about what to think of the beach but that didn't stop me from trying to get some pictures. It was pretty cold in the ocean and the wind was blowing so it was a quick photo session!

white christmas

We will forever cherish the memories we made on this trip. And although it was a challenging Christmas without dad's presence, we were comforted knowing that he was celebrating Christmas with Jesus himself! Thank you KK for a wonderful and much needed vacation!

Sooner Bred

2010-01-18T23:01:00.008-06:00

My Christmas gift from Heather and our little princess this year was this picture (along with another) that I could put in both my office and the study at the house. I love this picture! It captures Ellison's inquisitive nature, as well as her "no smile, all business" expression that she so commonly reverts to when in front of the camera. I also love the fact that it incorporates not only the Sooners, but the autographed football. For those that don't know, this is the football I got for Heather's dad our first Christmas we were dating. Up until that point, Mr. Hill (as I called him), had chosen not to acknowledge my existence; but nothing softens the heart like a football signed by both Bob Stoops and Barry Switzer. What a perfect gift! Thanks girls!

New Design...New Content to Come

2010-01-07T00:43:00.006-06:00

So it only took all my energy to overhaul the design of the blog. I know there are a few things still missing, but the general idea has been accomplished. Now that we are actually home for more than just a few days in a row, we will soon update the blog with our pictures and stories from our Christmas in Naples, Florida and our New Years from the Great Wolf Lodge in Grapevine, Texas. Check back soon, as more is coming in the very near future!

Thankful for Trials

2009-12-01T21:44:00.007-06:00

Thanksgiving this year was spent with Rob's side of the family. This means that little Ellie got to celebrate her first Thanskgiving with her new cousins Marshall and Preston, as well as her older cousins, Addie, Bella and Barrett. (I guess they are all "new cousins" since Ellison is the newest of them all). It was a blast to get the kiddos together.

Thanksgiving this year was also bittersweet. As we (Heather's mom, Aunt Mary and I) went to dinner on Saturday night for Heather's birthday, there was the obvious absence of her dad. Although his physical presence was not there at the table, his spirit definitely joined us as we ventured up to his favorite place to eat, Charlie Newton's.

As we looked to give thanks for all the blessing we have been given, we were at the same time finding it difficult to not ask the question, "Why?" And although this grief is something that is natural, healthy, and indeed necessary, we must not allow the temptation for us to become the victim overcome our ability to give thanks.

Ever since Jim's diagnosis, and more definitely since his passing, I have become much more aware of the presence of cancers in other's lives. For many, it is indeed Cancer that threatens their freedom, happiness, and even life. I hate the fact that this vicious and insidious disease has permeated so many families of those that I love. My heart breaks when I hear of another falling victim, well before there due, leaving family and friends to mourn their loss. Even this past week, as I learned of Pastor Billy Joe Daugherty (Pastor of Victory Christian Center), after only being diagnosed for one month (30 days) (4 weeks), falling victim to lymphoma cancer; I was left shaking my head, asking the question "Why?"

So for us as a family, we gave thanks for the 16 months we had to celebrate life during the battle with Jim's cancer. We gave thanks that we were given as much time as we were; that Jim survived two near death trips to ICU and 6 weeks in the Hospital. We gave thanks that we had received as much encouragement as we did from friends and family. We gave thanks that our Faith had been firmly planted in the Word prior to this trial so that it could withstand the grueling months ahead. We gave thanks that we are loved by God, and nothing we do can change that. We gave thanks that we have the freedom to look to Him, shake our heads, and ask "Why?" without fear of failure. We gave thanks for the beautiful baby girl we received and have fallen so in love with. We gave thanks that we did not, do not, and will not allow cancer to be the headline that defines our story, but rather only a chapter about a trial we overcame.

In James 1: 1-17, James writes about both trial and temptations. "2 Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds,3 because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance.4 Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.....12 Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him.
13 When tempted, no one should say, “God is tempting me.” For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone;14 but each one is tempted when, by his own evil desire, he is dragged away and enticed. 15 Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full‑grown, gives birth to death."

As we studied this scripture this past Sunday, the subtle difference between a trial and temptation was highlighted. A trial is used by God to build one's character. Temptation is caused by our own sinful desires and results in tearing us (and or others) down. But also note that both are going to happen. "Whenever you face trials..." and "When tempted..." The scripture does not say "if," but rather it says, "when."

We give thanks for the trial that this cancer has and is putting us through. For we are promised that the testing of our faith develops perseverance, maturity, and inherits the crown of life. However, for many others folks, there is something else that acts as disabling as cancer. Whether it be an addiction, pride, dishonesty, greed or whatever else, "it", like cancer, strips them of their freedom, happiness, and even life. This temptation, unlike a trial, does not come from God, but rather from our own evil desires; desires which become sin and lead to death. Like I mentioned above, my heart breaks for those who are fighting cancer, and likewise, my heart breaks for those that have given into their evil desires handicapping their ability to live a full and abundant life.

As we move from the season of giving thanks into the season of Christmas, I pray that you and I alike, will have hearts that no longer seek selfish and evil desires, but instead may we have hearts of compassion, love and forgiveness.

Granddad

2009-11-26T12:51:00.002-06:00

Due to the overwhelming love and affection our little girl gets from her grandmothers (both Grandmommy and KK), it is sometimes hard for Granddad to get some face time. And when he does get the rare opportunity to take her for a little bit, the cameras are usually not around. Therefore, we were excited to get a few pics of the two of them together.

Granddad definitely holds a special role with all his grandchildren. And as the older ones have come to find out, he is the source of ice cream, chocolate milk, and "sweets for breakfast." Ellison and Marshall I am sure will learn this sooner than later. And Heather and I have already decided that some things are better off to just let happen.

Visit with the Waggoners

2009-11-26T12:09:00.003-06:00

Over the weekend of the Texas A&M game we were able to go and see some of our dear friends, the Waggoner Family. Kade Waggoner, is Rob's God Son and the entire family has been a great role model for Heather and I for many years. It was the first time that we have seen them since Ellison has been born, so it was fun for the family to love on Ellie. Tony and JJ have taught us so much over the years about parenting, patience, humility, and being Spirit led in all their decisions. With four kiddos, they are constantly "on the go" and spending just a couple of hours with them gives a whole new meaning to multi-task.

We had a blast getting to visit and catch up. Thanks for allowing us to be apart of your lives!

day home with daddy!

2009-11-12T14:26:00.007-06:00

So, a few weeks ago, Ellison and Rob had a Saturday at home together. Several of my friends and I volunteered at a Junior League event so all the daddies and their girls came to our house to watch football. Rob is fabulous with Ellison in a way that I admire except in one area... getting her dressed! At times I wonder if he is color blind or just does it to see my reaction! We were anxious for Ellison to grow into her "Dr.Pooper" onesie from her Uncle Jake and Aunt Courtney and since they were coming over that day- it was the perfect opportunity. Just thought these pics were funny of the "coordinating pants" Rob put together. Silly daddy!

bonfire and hayride

2009-11-12T14:13:00.004-06:00

A favorite fall tradition since we moved to Tulsa is attending the Lowry's annual bonfire. It is such a fun time to get together with our dear friends and their little ones to prepare for the fall. This fun event is complete with a bonfire, hayride, watching football, and of course, hot dogs and smores! The kids always have such a great time running around their property as well as riding the hayride and seeing the horses. Even Ellison had a good time this year flirting with her little buddy Landon- a match made in heaven! Thanks Lowry's for another fun year... counting down the days until the next one!

Rice Cereal

2009-11-10T21:59:00.006-06:00

We have a few weeks under our belt of eating rice cereal- we just have not had time to get the funny pictures up! Ellison was a great sport during our first attempt trying out this new adventure and as you can tell, she was not impressed with my "cooking!" I think Rob makes this same face sometimes when I attempt new meals. She is now a good little eater and we look forward to trying out additional things in the near future. Rob and I were also good sports trying out the cereal as well.

Four month updates:

12 pounds, 14 ounces; 24 inches long

Has recently found her toes and can't get enough of them

Rolling around everywhere

Lots of smiles and laughter (unless there is a camera present!)

Enjoys playing with her monkey "ooie"

Determined to put both hands in her mouth at once

Sleeping wonderfully (she is SO our daughter!)

Bringing us more JOY than we could ever imagine.

our baby bee's

2009-11-09T21:26:00.005-06:00

Both Ellison and Petie dressed up as bee's for Halloween- Ellie being a honey bee and Petie being a bumble bee. We were in Norman to celebrate Halloween and instead of trick or treating, everyone just came to us! Aunt Lori and Uncle Steve even surprised Ellison with her very own candy pumpkin (note that she is trying to eat the Kit Kat)! We also made Aunt Sarah come by before her Halloween party to take pictures because she was a bee too! It was great to see everyone. Thanks for making our first Halloween so special!

Pumpkin Patch

2009-11-06T23:14:00.007-06:00

With fall being my most favorite time of the year, we of course had to take Ellison and Petie to The Pumpkin Patch. Unfortunately, the wind was blowing at high speeds so Petie stayed in the car and we made our photo session...QUICK! I don't think Ellison knew quite what to think and by the end, she had lost her boots, her bow, and her interest! Regardless, we did want to share a few of the pictures from our first annual trip to the patch with our little pumpkin.

Happy first birthday Campbell!

2009-11-04T11:49:00.005-06:00

We had such a great time this weekend attending Campbell Cornwell's first birthday party! Campbell is the daughter of my best friend since I was two, Lauren Cornwell. I can't believe a year has gone by since Campbell's birth but we have enjoyed watching this little angel grow! Lauren and Ben lived in Tulsa up until last May so we got to spend lots of time with their family and miss them dearly. Lauren did a fabulous job preparing for this cupcake themed birthday party including making Campbell's birthday cake which was so cute! It was also a great time to get to see all of Ellison's little friends! Looking forward to many more firsts...

Ellison's first day!

2009-10-26T17:06:00.011-05:00

A week ago Monday was a big milestone for our little Ellison- she attended her first day at Riverfield Country Day School. It was supposed to be my first day back at work as well but unfortunately I was at home with the flu. We decided to go ahead and drop her off so I could rest and from what we heard, she did great! Each day the school sends an email update with what the "birds" did. That day, Ellison was the topic of conversation (see below)- so proud! Our original plan was for her to attend the child care facility at St. John were I work. As it got closer to me going back to work, she still did not have a spot. Thanks to our dear friend Emily Walton (and Ellie's Godmother), she got into Riverfield and it has been fabulous! Emily is an employee there and her little ones attend Riverfield as well. We have been so pleased in just the few days she has attended and look forward to Ellison being a "raven" for awhile.

Weekend with friends!

2009-10-21T15:02:00.012-05:00

Several weeks ago we had the opportunity to spend lots of time with my dear friends from college. The weekend began with a fun lunch at Saturn Grill followed by shopping in OKC. The following day we celebrated another sooner victory at the Cornwell's. Three of my sorority sisters have babies all within several months of Ellison and it has been so fun to watch these little ones grow together. On Sunday, we hosted a shower for Kinsey and Jared Thomas who are awaiting the arrival of Parker. We are in need of another boy in the group because poor Griffin Garrett is out numbered! Can't wait for Parker to get here!

From left to right: Griffin Garrett, Campbell Cornwell, Cali McConathy, and Ellison Sher

Covenant Community Fallapalooza

2009-10-19T22:47:00.000-05:00

In August we participated in our wonderful community's first Fallapalooza! It was a fun event featuring snow cones, a moon bounce, cupcake walk, and most popular... the balloon animal man. We were blessed with the most amazing weather and enjoyed the fall kick-off with many of our dear friends. Covenant holds a very special place in our hearts and the friendships we have developed are priceless! Ellison and her friend Harper wore their matching outfits for the event- they could be sisters! Many of the pictures were taken by the fabulous Alissa Adams. Thanks Alissa for sharing your gift with us!

And yes, Rob finally let me post something on "the blog!"

2009-10-08T15:31:00.003-05:00

Boomer Sooner

First off, my apologies for not keeping this blog updated. Obviously we have had some major transitions in our lives, and that also means the face of this blog is changing. So rather than write a really long entry that would cover the past 6-8 weeks, I am going to generate some shorter recaps of what has been going on in the Sher family.

So let's start with the disappointing...Sooner Football. If you know me at all, you know that Sooner Football is one of the few things in life that bring out the best/worst in me. I love it, I hate it, and there is really no in-between. So the fact that we are a mere four points away from being undefeated and in consideration for a national championship does not bode well for this Sooner fan.

However, with the exception of the BYU game, our weekend in Dallas was a great time. Heather's sister, Holly, got engaged and is well into wedding plans by now. It was fun to see the excitement on Holly's face and to celebrate with Darren, his mother, and Steve and Lori Lindsey. While the guys were at the game, Karen, Lori and Heather were training Ellison on how to shop like a professional. Not sure what to think about it all, except, if you look at the picture carefully and read the fine print, it was KK's credit card, so I have no problem with Ellison swiping that. I did have a problem, however, getting all the packages to the car.

As always it was great to see cousin Addison and Uncle Drew and Aunt Jill, as well as cousin Preston and Patrick and Gretchen. It was also a fun surprise to run into our good friends Brian and Sarah Hartsock. Unexpectedly staying at the same hotel, we were able to catch up with the Hartsocks on Friday night (needless to say, I was in a much better mood on Friday night then I was on Saturday night).

So, as you can imagine, after losing the game, and our Heisman Quarterback, I was not a happy camper. However, this year is different; and so will the years to come, I imagine. It's amazing...but, as upset as I was after the BYU game, seeing that precious smile on my little Ellie's face seemed to make it all better. And that shallow illustration of how this little girl brings so much joy pales in comparison to the joy she has brought a family that has suffered so much this past year. Watching the smiles, the laughter and the incomprehensible healing that can come from such a small, but yet perfect, package, gives us breath, once again, to celebrate life and give thanks to our Creator!

2009-08-26T23:32:00.019-05:00

A Celebration of Life
Birthdays are for celebrating life, and today was no different. Today would be Jim's 62nd birthday; and as hard as it it to grasp our minds on how different life is now that he is no longer walking day to day with us; we can be comforted knowing that Jim is celebrating in a way that we can only imagine!

I will never understand the pain that my wife, Heather, or her sister, Holly, or mom, Karen, are experiencing. And as a Husband, and Son-in-Law, I wish there was something I could do to help alleviate the sorrow and suffering. However as we heard this past week from our Pastor, Tom Harrison, grief is necessary. It is not a sign of weakness, or a sign of disbelief. Just because you are a believer, doesn't prevent you, or isolate you, from being able to grieve. Just as it is written in Acts 8, verse 2, we see how Godly men mourned deeply for the death of Stephen. Pastor Tom went on to quote Philip Yancey’s Prayer. On page 220: “When I hear a person describe a remarkable escape from an airplane crash, I cannot help thinking about the people who died in the same crash, many of them praying just as fervently. And although I rejoice over reports of miraculous healings, I also remember with a pang the file drawer in my office bulging with stories of those who have not been healed. I do not doubt that God answers prayer. Rather, I struggle with the inconsistency of those apparent answers.”

Although it seems unfair to us that we must now learn how to live our lives without the presence of Jim Hill as the husband, father, and grandfather; it is also important that we remain grounded in what we hold to be true, in what we have our hearts believe in, and where we find our strength.

Tonight, God provided words of affirmation to both Heather and I. As we sat in the midst of thousands of others worshipping alongside one another being led by the Hillsong United Band, our hearts were pierced by the lyrics of a new song. It was a song that neither of us had heard before, and it was as if God was speaking the words directly to our hearts. I have attempted to attach the song/lyrics together in a video format that I created at the bottom of this post (lets keep our fingers crossed it works). I hope that the Spirit will tug at your heart as It did ours tonight.

2009-08-19T22:52:00.003-05:00

Little Fishy
This past week we embarked on our first dip in the pool; twice! I am not sure it is recommended for a 7 week old to get in the pool, but when it comes to summer fun, nothing is more important than a sunny soak. We were lucky enough to share this experience with both friends and family. First, we went over to our good friends, Ryan and Joy Hulver's house. Their twin girls, Julia and Olivia (2 year olds) were sweet enough to share their pool with little Ellie. We then came back to Norman for a whole 20 hours, where we went to KK's and swam in the pool with nearly the entire family (minus the San Antonio Kerrs). It was especially fun to have both Preston Ryan and Ellison Kate enjoy their "first swims" together.

We returned home from our short trip for a supper (baby) shower for Craig and Sarah Buchan. We were with the Buchans, Cains, Hulvers, and Weatherholt's until about midnight...and come to find out, less than three hours later, Sarah went into labor. Elizabeth Buchan was born on Sunday, August 16th. CONGRATS BUCHAN FAMILY!

Below I have posted some of the more recent pictures of Ellison. I hope you enjoy them as much as we do.

2009-07-26T15:32:00.009-05:00

Daddy's New Mac
So the week Ellison arrived I decided I needed to have a new mac. We had been living on both our desktop and laptops last legs (they are both over 6 years old), so it was due time. So having the new baby come along, I thought it was necessary to make the switch from PC to Mac. This decision was justified by all the video editing I would be doing making "home videos." Well, the first video is complete, although the footage was limited to that of the hospital. We will have to become more mindful of taking some video footage every now and then.

In making the video I quickly learned that our camcorder, that we have had for a couple of years, yet never used, doesn't produce the greatest in video quality. May need to upgrade that soon too! And, of course, making the video small enough to post also reduced the quality. Anyway, here it is; you will want to pause the music on the top left of the blog before playing. Hope you enjoy! I am sure there will be more to come!

2009-07-13T21:55:00.010-05:00

Our First Road Trip (A Sweet Home Alabama Wedding)
This past weekend we loaded up the car and headed towards Madisonville, Texas (a suburb of Houston), for the wedding of our good friends Jake and Courtney. I met both Jake and Courtney at the District Attorney's Office, as they are both Assistant D.A.s. Since that time, Jake, Courtney, Heather and I have become dear friends, and have had many fun times together. It has been especially exciting to have both the wedding and Baby Ellison to celebrate these past few weeks.

Since both Heather and I were in the wedding, we recruited the presence of "KK" (Heather's mom, Karen) to come along with us; as well as enlisted the assistance of Brad, Ashley and Hank to house sit and take care of Petie. We rented out a bed and breakfast, "Bunkhouse and Biscuits," and participated in the southern hospitality and festivities.

Our weekend was packed, with the cocktail hours, the rehearsal dinner (which Ellison and KK joined us at), the bridal luncheon, groomsmen skeet shoot, photos, wedding, reception, and Sunday morning brunch (which Ellison and KK joined again), it was a hectic weekend. The reception took place back at Courtney's parent's ranch. It began with a cocktail hour outside served with sweet potato fries and fried okra, and then moved to inside the banquet hall (or satin draped barn). Following the wedding, we rode back to the hotel with Jake and Courtney. It was 1:30 am, and the bride and groom were starving; being that Madisonville practically shuts down at 9:00 pm, the only place open was the new grocery store, Buc-ees (even Taco Bell was closed.) It was quite a sight to see the four of us make our grand entrance into this small town supermarket.

The weekend was fun and full of good company! On the way down we stayed with Heather's Aunt Sharon and Uncle Mike right outside of Dallas. And then on our return, we were able to make a stop and visit cousin Patrick and Gretchen, with their little one, Preston Ryan. Preston is exactly six weeks older than Ellison. The introduction of the two cousins was a sight to see.

We are so blessed to have friends and family to share, celebrate and enjoy our lives with.

2009-07-04T10:51:00.003-05:00

2 WEEKS OLD!
It's hard to believe that it has been two weeks. In some regards the time has flown by, as it seems just yesterday we were in the Hospital; however, it also seems nearly impossible to recall what life was like before Ellison was apart of our lives.

This last week I went back to work, and Heather enlisted the help of both her mom and my mom. It was nice to have them here to help ease the transition. But before my return, we spent the Friday having photos taken of Ellison as a one-weeker.

On the 3rd we went to a great fireworks show in Kiefer, OK, (about 5 miles South of Jenks) and Ellison was not bothered by the booms whatsoever. So we may push our luck, and try it again on the 4th. I hope you all have a wonderful and safe 4th of July. Remember our men and women serving our country, and the sacrifices they and their families have made for us. I pray for God's protection and blessings on them!

2009-06-24T23:21:00.005-05:00

HOME SWEET HOME

We made it home on Monday evening after nearly five days in the Hospital, and although Ellison spent her last day and half there under the UV lights, we were grateful we did not have to bring those lights home. Our first new challenge (one of many more to come) was the car seat; but all went well, credit given to the car seat safety class we took a few weeks back.

Once we pulled into the drive it was time for Petie (our 3 year old shi tzu) to be introduced to his new sister. He immediately took affection to her, and has been quite the protective sibling since.

Ellie has been an angel since she arrived home. Sleeping well, eating well, and pooping well, it seems that she has all the basics covered. In fact, I was tempted to call this blog entry "Sleeping Beauty," as this kiddo knows how to catch some zzz's. Similarly, as a new daddy, you hear stories from seasoned fathers about the amount of diapers and wipes you will go through, but nothing can really prepare you for the vast amount of "waste" that comes with a newborn! In fact, Wednesday afternoon, I was left alone, for the first time, with Ellie; within 10 minutes of being "in charge" I had changed 3 diapers and Ellison had been moved to 3 different seats.

You will even notice that we made our first Doctor appointment, scheduled for 10:30, on time. Quite a task for the Sher's without a new baby, but even more impressive with Ellie now here.

Heather and I are so thankful to have had "KK" (Heather's mom, Karen) staying with us these past few days. She has been busy busy, preparing meals, cleaning, doing laundry, and allowing us to rest when Ellison rests. However, KK departs on Thursday, and it soon will be just the three of us (only for a little while) as JoePa (Rob's dad) is coming up for a short visit, and Grandmommy (Rob's mom) is scheduled to come and help when I go back to work next week. We are truly blessed and thankful to have grandparents that are so willing to help at a moment's notice.

What a miracle having a newborn in the home is! Witnessing feeding, eyes focusing, weight gain, little yawns, and all the other "firsts" that are around the corner, is so awesome to be a part of. Thanks for sharing in this time with us!

To God be the Glory for giving us Life,
Rob and Heather

2009-06-22T00:04:00.008-05:00

Blessed with Friends
Friends are good to have. And like it or not, Ellison has a ton of friends already. I love the fact that we live within a community where we as parents (sounds so weird to say) can have so many friends. But more so, I love the fact that our baby girl is already surrounded by girls and boys that will be able to teach her, play with her, look out for her, love her, and yes, even get her into some trouble.

Looking back over the pictures from the last 36 hours or so, it is amazing how many friends have already stopped by. I apologize if we didn't get a picture of you in the midst of all the chaos of those coming and going. Yet, I give thanks to God, that we can be surrounded by such chaos as there are many that are not blessed with friends like we are.

For those of you that have already visited, THANK YOU SO MUCH! For those that are planning to visit, we cannot wait to see you and brag about our new addition. For those that are separated by too much distance to come, we have loved hearing from you in your voice mails, emails, and text messages.

Below are some of the pictures of our friends and family that have been to the hospital to see us. You will notice that Ellison, as of Sunday morning, had to be placed under the LED Lamp to lower her bilirubin level, which causes jaundice. It was such a disheartening sight to see her helpless body left alone and naked. However, I was so impressed by the genuine interest and concern shown by some of her "new friends." Such compassion, at such young ages, affirms my thankfulness that lil Ellie is surrounded with wonderful new friends.

2009-06-20T12:03:00.005-05:00

Sweet Baby Ellie
Even before her first breath, we knew that Ellie Kate would be a sweetie. Therefore, we wanted to make certain that she was in good company in the hospital room. Surrounding her in the room are sweets of all sorts. Whether it is the cake donuts or the lollipop bouquet for her guests, Ellison remains the sweetest of them all.

During our initial hold, I explained to Miss Ellie how blessed she was to have so many folks that would love her. Showered in attention by friends and family, I told Ellie that there was a good chance that after our time together today that I would likely not have the opportunity to be able to hold her for the next few days. I think she understood; however I also think she likes her daddy time.

I also am aware that many of her admirers won't be able to see her for awhile. So please enjoy the slide show of Ellison's first few minutes.

2009-06-19T22:19:00.004-05:00

Presenting Ellison Kate Sher
After nearly twelve hours of labor, and over two and half hours of pushing, the critical decision was made to move to Cesarean Section as the vehicle to bring this bundle of joy into our lives.

Being that Heather was dilated to a 4 earlier that day at the Doctor's office, I was certain that the baby was coming soon, and probably that evening. I therefore stayed up until 1:00 A.M, and was still wide eyed awake in bed when Heather's water broke at 1:30.

Upon our arrival at the hospital, Heather was already dilated to a 6. Therefore, we never really contemplated being faced with the emergency C-Section surgery. However, once Heather was fully dilated, it became obvious, over a matter of time, that Ellison simply could not drop any more. With the calm advice of Heather's OBGYN, we agreed that it was time to move into the surgery room.

Any surgery is frightening; especially when considering it affects not only the one you have loved for such a long time, but also your future pride and joy. However, that was not the scariest part of this surgery that I was about to observe. Rather, for me, it was the very real fact, that although I walk into this sterilized room as a husband, I will walk out as a father...that thought was enough to make my heart stop.

So I went in, looking like a dufus, that was a cross between a haz-mat team and the marshmallow man from the movie Ghostbusters. And this was a step up from the fact that when I first got dressed I had both my shoe covers, as well as the white cover-alls, on backwards.

And in a few short minutes, my world was forever changed. At 1:48 P.M., Ellison Kate emerged from her mother's stomach, weighing 6 pounds 13 ounces, measuring 21 inches, taking my breath away at first sight.

Due to the surgery, we will likely be at St. John's until Monday, maybe Tuesday. But that is also time where we can turn our little princess over to the nursery for a few hours each night and get some much needed rest.

What an amazing gift children are. And what a wonderful illustration of how Big, Wonderful, and Awe Inspiring our Creator truly is. I am blessed to have begun this chapter of life.

2009-06-06T10:51:00.014-05:00

The Eternal Embrace
Let me first thank each of you for your prayers over the past 16 months. It has been truly joyful to feel the presence of your support and encouragement that came into our lives, and into Jim's.

Wednesday night we received word that Jim's days were numbered, and may even be only hours. After hanging on for another 2 days, and his continued fight throughout the day on Friday, Heather and I made the decision to come to Norman and be by his side. Spending those 4 or 5 hours by his side were terribly difficult, but yet, a blessing that we could see him one last time. As we did, through his exhaustion, Jim gave each of his girls their own individual "love you honey."

We went to bed last night knowing that it was unlikely he would make it to morning. So through our tears we prayed over Jim and let him know how proud we were of his fight and that he could enter the Kingdom with his head held high, being a fighter until the end.

About 1:15AM we were made aware that Jim was taking his last breaths. As he did, Karen, Holly and Heather stood by his side, held his hands, and wrapped him in an abundance of love as he slipped away from our world. He was surrounded by his family, just as he wanted. To see this family chant him on to fight this cancer for many months and then watching them say goodbye, that it was okay to let go, and to take his seat in eternity, was an amazing sight. The trumpets were playing as Jim entered the Kingdom of Heaven at 1:25AM. And from that moment forward we believe that Jim is wrapped in the arms of God, and will live peacefully in this eternal embrace.

Although this clearly was not how Heather and I would have foreseen this being how we spend the days prior to our baby girl's birth; God did provide us with a peace last night. A peace that Jim was no longer in any pain. A peace the Jim now has a front row seat to the delivery. A peace that now our family can focus on the joy of new life; the life of Ellison Kate and the new eternal life of Jim Hill. Knowing that one of the greatest desires of Jim's heart was to meet his granddaughter, we firmly believe, although no longer with us now, Jim is the first to hold his grand baby, and that until her arrival here on earth she is sitting in his lap listening to her grandpa's stories.

Funeral plans are set for Monday morning, here in Norman, at McFarlin United Methodist Church beginning at 11:00 am. A lunch will follow for family members and out of town guests. In lieu of flowers, the family is asking that contributions be made on behalf of Jim to the American Cancer Society or Second Chance Animal Sanctuary of Norman (http://www.secondchancenorman.info/default/Default.aspx?tabid=36)

Thanks again for taking this journey with us. Although it is the end of one journey, it is only the beginning of another, and we look forward to sharing that road with you as well!

Rob and Heather Sher

2009-05-30T16:15:00.003-05:00

Here Comes Goodbye
These past few days have been full of emotion, confusion, and grace. As we learned that the days of Jim's treatment were behind us, and hospice was to begin, we now know that goodbye is around the corner.

It is not as surprising as it is just brutally real. I mean, being honest with ourselves, we knew 16 months ago that Jim was terminally ill; and at that time we were uncertain he would ever be released from the hospital. Interesting how time and seemingly better health tend to blind you from the inevitable.

However, when faced with the reality of what is to come, and the uncertainty of when it is to come, we find ourselves challenged all over again. Especially considering the circumstances of what is supposed to be the happiest time of our lives and the timing where we are literally just weeks away from the arrival of Baby Sher, we struggle to find God's provision in His timing.

So as we spent both last weekend and this weekend alongside of Jim, we were eager to see his pain subside but were not yet ready to let him go. We know that goodbye is coming, we just don't know exactly when. Difficult conversations about his funeral, and how he has everything in order to take care of Karen are combined with stories of the nursery, and the baby to come.

So as we prepare to say goodbye, we recognize all that will be no longer. Goodbye to years of pain and suffering; goodbye to sleepless nights; goodbye to chemo, radiation and the side effects that follow. Goodbye to the "command center," "policing the area" and telling the boys (Petie and Oggie) to "knock it off."

However, even though we know that goodbye is near, we rest assured knowing that what will remain is the legacy of Jim Hill. A legacy that entails a believer in Christ, a warrior who fought hard the battle against cancer, a man of compassion for humans and animals alike, a mentor, a friend, and a passionate OU fan. So although here comes goodbye, and we prepare ourselves for that exit, we will never forget the father, husband and soon-to-be grandfather that is Jim Hill.

As we prepare for goodbye we covet your prayers. Pray that we remain selfless in our desires for Jim, that his entrance into the Kingdom is one with limited pain and suffering, that we have the faith and trust in the Lord to let go, and that in our own saddness and grief we remember the blessings that God has poured down onto this family, especially the blessing who will be called Ellison Kate Sher.

So goodbye is coming, but only to a temporary chapter, as an eternal one is just beginning. What is "goodbye" for us, is "Welcome Home!" for Jim.

2009-05-07T21:16:00.002-05:00

Welcome Baby Sher's Bestest Friends
Even before the arrival of Baby Sher (no, we still do not have a name), she already has two new best friends. These are two very special boys! And I can not wait to see the role they will play in her life.

Being only days apart, these two boys are also cousins to each other. Now, I am only 3 months older than one of my cousins, and only 2 years younger than another, and I know how close we have been throughout our lives; so I can only imagine being only 2 days older; or even 6 weeks older.

But that is the life that Baby Sher will be born into. Welcoming her into the world will be cousin Marshall Crawford Kerr, born May 4th 2009, and cousin Preston Ryan Clark, born May 06, 2009.

Here is Marshall Crawford:

From Babies

And here is Preston Ryan:

From Babies

Welcome boys! We are glad that you are here; safe, healthy, and already growing!

2009-05-02T00:16:00.008-05:00

Stop Looking at My Twitter!
Today, at the office, I was asked about Twitter. And you know, had I been asked last week, I would have simply looked at the person inquiring, dumbfounded, and told her that it was probably inappropriate for her to be talking to me about my twitter, and such conversation could possibly be considered sexual harassment.

But to my credit, or discredit, I actually knew what she was talking about, and it had nothing to do with my body. Twitter, I have learned recently, is a micro-blog. (Oh, thanks Rob, that clears it up!) In fact, when one participates in Twitter (known as "tweeting") they are simply answering the question: "What are you doing" in 140 characters or less. You find folks you want to "follow" which consists of getting their updated tweets, and then others choose to follow you. That truly is all it is. So why all the rave?

Well, I can't really explain it. In fact, I was conned into joining by two of my friends just last week while I was in Los Angeles; but ever since then, I cannot seem to pull myself away from the concept. Some of my more recent posts have included:
* "Tonight I embark on my first parenting class...breast feeding 101. I am forecasting a 90% chance of awkward mixed with partly uncomfortable"
* "Getting ready for my basketball game tonight...high-tops, gym shorts, jersey, and ibuprofens"
* "Just arrived at LAX for our midnight flight; who flies this late?"
* "I have now had 4 chikfila sandwiches in 2 days...so i guess the diet is going well"

So shortly after joining, I quickly began thinking, who is going to want to follow me and why do I have this Twitter Account? Seriously, isn't it time for me to grow up? I mean what am I going to write everyday: "At work today," "Still at work," "Heading home from work." Riveting, right?

But then, not a moment too soon, I came across an Oklahoma Bar Association article that spoke about the great potential Twitter can have for professionals if used appropriately. As for the content of the article, well, I basically skimmed it, but just the fact that it was there gave me the confidence I needed to tweet away.

So for all those skeptics, don't knock it until you try it. And for those of you bold enough to join, come follow me on twitter. You never know, you may just catch me being full of twit.

2009-04-20T21:03:00.012-05:00

Not Everything You Read on the Internet is True
One of my favorite quotes comes from the American version of "The Office." The goofy and ignorant Regional Manager, Michael Scott, makes the comment about how he loves Wikipedia because anyone can make an entry about anything, therefore it has to be accurate.

The irony in such a statement is that we all, for so many things in life, rely on the internet. In business we can keep an eye on the stock market, participate in on-line banking, and exchange communication through email. For entertainment we can go to ESPN, read blogs, check local movie times, or even download the movie itself. The internet has truly changed the way we approach our day. In fact, with the convenience of online headlines we have witnessed the downfall, and fate, of many newspaper companies. And as I have previously stated on this blog, I am a huge fan of Google.

But such endless amounts of information must be treated with extreme caution. The simple fact that anyone can post information about anything leaves room for vasts amount of misinformation. I warn you of such, as I was recently a victim myself this past weekend.

With Baby Sher's arrival soon approaching it was necessary to get a little paint on the walls of the nursery. When inquiring with Heather as to what color we would paint, she indicated to me that she wanted a diamond pattern placed on the wall, something she referred to as Harlequin Diamonds. Something I had never even heard of, nor knew nothing about.

So the Googler that I am, I went right to the source. I typed in "How to" and "Harlequin Diamonds", of which I got a couple of hits. Trusting the wisdom provided by these sources, I purchased the two colors of paint, and began following the instructions. Quickly I realized, however, these instructions could not be complete, nor accurate...to which I confirmed about 4.5 hours later.

According to the instructions all you needed was your paint, level, and some tape. Well actually, you need a ton of tape, meticulous measurements, and an immense amount of sanity/patience. Moreover, you need a second person, as this task was impossible to do on your own. Luckily I had the help of a good friend, Jake Cain. Jake came over about 2:00, and 4 hours later, we were still working on getting the first diamond laid out. Without boring you with the detail, another 8 hours went by and we finally had the wall taped for the first set of diamonds. Things went much smoother after we figured out what the heck we were doing.

Now of course, I was smart in my approach, as I attempted this monumental task on a weekend that Heather was out of town. She was being pampered by some of Mom's good friends in her first baby shower. Thanks Ms. Drennan, Ms. Quinn, Sarah, Aunt Sharri and Jill for hosting this event! So by Sunday evening, I was able to unveil the results to Heather. I have attached a few pictures for you as well.

I am sure this is only the beginning of the "challenges" that are to come with the arrival of Baby Sher. Good thing for me I can always turn to the Google for all my answers!

2009-04-02T22:06:00.003-05:00

An Age of Technology
I have always been a "gadget guy." I love to always stop in at Brookstone and see what is new. I can't tell you how many "bluetooth" products I have purchased and I am always wanting the newest cell phone. I have friends that actually think I have a vested interest in Google because I am always utilizing their newest tools. I have become a High-Definition TV snob, I am addicted to Tivo (have been for years...and Tivo is better than regular old DVR) and I am one of the few, unfortunately for Sharper Image, that actually purchased the iJoy Massage Chair. In fact, just tonight, I bought a gadget allowing you to turn on/off your lamp with the flick of a wireless switch...and it worked!

Technology is impressive, and I am not talking just about the toys.

This past week Heather and I took advantage of the opportunity to get a first glance at Baby Girl Sher. How awesome it was to see the vivid images from the 4d Ultra Sound. We promptly emailed a few of the pics to the grandparents so they could enjoy them as well.

In a not as fun, but just as impressive setting; Heather's dad, via a Pet and CT Scan, became aware that his cancer had spread to a couple of spots in his spine. As a result, Jim immediately began Radiation Treatments this week. Short, but intense, doses of radiation will hopefully reduce these spots and eliminate the pain that he has been suffering in his lower back.

Also taking place this week was Heather's mom completing her last round of chemo. Karen, like Jim, is set to begin radiation, but probably not until the end of this month.

How cool is technology? It can show us glimpses of the future through things like ultrasounds. It can show us what is causing pain in the present, through PET Scans. It can fight vicious diseases like cancer through radiation. It allows us to be able to communicate instantaneously, shop at our fingertips, and predict the weather (well, maybe that's taking it too far.)

But as hip as technology is, we must be careful that it does not become our source of hope. Now, don't get me wrong, I want the radiation to take this cancer by the horns and....but I am not going to just sit back with my fingers crossed. Rather, I believe (and pray) that this radiation will do what the 22 rounds of chemo did not; shrink these tumors. You see I like technology, but my Faith is in God.

We have been overjoyed, that by God's grace and power, the 13 months of chemo therapy prevented the tumors in Jim's body from growing; however, our prayer is bigger than that. We still firmly believe that God's will is for healing, so our expectation is nothing less than for Him to heal Jim and Karen's bodies. I hope you will join with us in that prayer for healing. (Maybe you can set up a prayer reminder via Google Calendar.)

2009-03-18T22:26:00.005-05:00

Double Digits
So today Heather informed me she was in her third trimester; and according to the baby clock countdown (courtesy of JoePa) we are within double digit days (99 to go). YIKES! All this to say, this baby is coming whether we are ready or not.

Sure the nursery is not painted, the glider is not covered, the bedding is not made, and the changing table has not been delivered, but those are just details, right. Sure we haven't picked out a name, haven't started shopping for all of those things we will need that we currently don't even know exists, and haven't made the "simple" decisions like stroller or car seat. But us Shers are professional procrastinators; so by our time-line we still have three months before we need to get serious about this "baby stuff". However, one thing that I have managed to get planned, my 2 golf trips and las vegas trip, prior to the delivery. (priorities right?)

On a side note, these past few days have been filled with seeing old friends. Some of Heather's best friends (college roomates) came into town for a girls weekend. Seeing Kinsey, Emily, Lauren and Jamie together was fun; although I was pretty much exiled from the house. Then on Sunday evening, and again on Monday evening, we were able to spend some time with the Waggoner family. Tony and JJ Waggoner have been a couple we have looked up to for many years now and we are honored to be able to be apart of their family. I have truly enjoyed getting to be a God-father to their son, Kade, and equally enjoy seeing the girls. Since we have been in Tulsa much of our relationship has been carried out via email or phone calls. So seeing how grown up Abbie, Kade and Madison have become is quite incredible. And after meeting their newest addition, Jennifer, their adopted daughter, we immediately fell in love with her as well. It's good to have friends!

55 weeks, Valentines Day and Baby's First Sounds

2009-02-22T22:13:00.014-06:00

From Tomlin

Baby's First Sounds
So according to Heather, there is a certain point during the pregnancy that the baby becomes capable of hearing the outside world. I am assuming, she being a nurse and all, that Heather knows what she is talking about; however, I tend to also believe, she may tell me such things to make certain that I think before I speak.

In the rare case that what she says is true, we celebrated this milestone of the baby's first days of hearing with a Chris Tomlin concert. What a wonderful way to break in the ol' ear drums. I mean considering the alternative, like Heather singing in her car with some Broadway show tune blaring through the stereo, or my american idol auditions (of which consist of me attempting to sing most the songs as sung by the contestants on the show), I am certain Baby Girl Sher was quite grateful to hear Tomlin.

Happy Valentines!
So this year, being our last Valentines without kiddos, Heather and I decided to do something special for V-Day. Complete with reservations, white linens, candlelit tables, and romantic entertainment, we had a special dinner at one of our favorite restaurants...Chickfila. That's right, there really is nothing better than those chicken nuggets or a classic chickfila sandwich; except when they are served to you by a waitstaff in tuxes! Of course, the night would not have been complete without our picture with the Cow.

One Year Later
It has been over one year since Jim was diagnosed with Stage 4 colon cancer and given only weeks to live. Well, the Drs. were correct, he was very sick, needed immediate surgery, and only had weeks to live; its just that we are at 55 weeks and counting! Go Jim! In celebration, Jim and Karen, Heather and I, sister Holly, and the Hill's best friends, Steve and Lori Lindsey had a delicious meal of food at Charlie Newtons in Nichols Hills. And Jim's cancer enzyme scores continue to decrease, once again hitting an all-time low of less than 275! This makes four consistently decreasing scores; Praise God for working and breaking down this cancer!

From Cancer 1yr

2009-02-03T21:50:00.010-06:00

13 growing on 15
It is quite an experience to get our crew of 13 together. Being that brother Chris and his family live in San Antonio, Drew and his family in Coppell, and Heather and I in Tulsa, such a gathering happens only once to a few times a year. And when we are together, it is chaos. Chaos that I wouldn't change for the world. Now add the element of trying to get all of us to smile at the same time, and you are in store for a true challenge. I particularly love the shots of Kristen...her smiles come so naturally, however, just not in front of the camera. So when you capture a genuine smile, you cherish it.

With the arrival of Baby Sher and Baby Kerr we are only a few months away from being a crew of 15. Can't wait for the next time we get together for portrait shots...I imagine it will be something that sitcoms could be made of.

2009-01-30T18:36:00.008-06:00

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It's a GIRL!
So we discovered on Monday that our house is about to be transformed into a castle, where it will house the world's newest princess. I cannot decide if I am more excited or terrified about this news.

I truly had no preference between a boy or girl, I just wanted a healthy beautiful baby. And this remains true; however, how can I, Mr. Budget, overlook the financial obligations that are now in front of me: dance lessons, sweet-sixteen, prom dresses, tanning, sorority, and wedding - YIKES! I guess on the bright side, I can invest the 350 dollar circumcision fee into the stock market.

"Now seriously, Rob," as my wife says (as if the above monetary concerns were not serious); we are ecstatic. And this bit of news is the firing shot that gets the race started. Now we can begin tossing around names, looking at paint (which I learned can only be done after bedding is picked out), so tomorrow we are looking at bedding, and getting the house transformed from the Pottery Barn catalog to Babies R Us...our house is anything but child friendly.

And as you can imagine, our parents are stoked as well. My mom swears that this baby-girl may finally be the one person that can tame my personality and Heather's mom is of course out of control with glee.

And as for an update on Heather's parents, they are doing great! Jim's CEA score (a test that monitors his cancer enzymes) is the lowest it has ever been, and has been consistently decreasing the past few weeks. Karen continues to tolerate her treatment very well. So what do two cancer patients do when things are going so well......take a trip to Vegas! That's right, Jim and Karen went with two of their closest friends to Las Vegas for a week of entertainment. They must have thought Heather and I were too busy, as they failed to extend the invite in our direction. So I guess, Rob's first trip to Vegas will have to wait.

To all of you that have Daddy's little girls, please feel free to leave some advice!

Rob and Heather

2009-01-22T08:01:00.002-06:00

2008: Year in Review
So the beginning of 2008 was pretty ordinary, I was a high powered Assistant District Attorney in Tulsa County and Heather was charge nurse at St. John Medical Center. Our lives were not very exciting. But the year of 2008 brought with it many surprises, blessings and challenges. And over the next 12 months, God was about to teach us a lot about ourselves, our faiths, and our love for each other.

In late January I was asked to step into a leadership role with our Community (Sunday school class) and accepted the invitation. Within 2 weeks we learned of Heather’s dad being diagnosed with Stage 4 colon cancer.

Heather took some time to be in Norman taking care of her family, while I continued my career in the DA’s office. This means for a good part of the year, we were miles apart. During the first 6 months of 2008 I tried 7 jury trials, and obtained a guilty verdict in every single one (that means that I won for you non-Law and Order buffs.) While serving at the DA’s office, Heather and I made some dear friends, Jake and Courtney, who got engaged to be married this year. We have grown remarkably close to them, and continue to enjoy their presence in our lives.

Throughout the year we continued to grow closer to our Covenant Community friends. God was surrounding us with good company; friends that would pray for us; friends that would cry with us. In May, Heather and I, along with 13 others from the class, took a mission trip to the Red Bird Mission in Beverly, Kentucky, located in the Appalachian Mountains. There we were challenged in new ways. Heather and I had both been on plenty of mission trips before, but not one like this. God re-taught us what Grace was that summer; and like the family we were serving, we as children of God tend to take advantage of the blessings God has given to us, rather than being grateful. We have so many great friends that have stemmed from this community and our Asbury church family. We are thankful that God has placed the Waltons, Coopers, Adams, McCants, Meyers, Keifers, as well as the many others in our lives.

Over the 4th of July, my family got to gather together at my parent’s new lake house in Bella Vista, Arkansas. It is rare for all 13 of us to be together, so it was nice to have a place and time that was relaxing. Heather and I also made a trip with my dad and his family to Williamsburg, Virginia.

A special day to remember will be the day that Heather and her sister, Holly, invited 200 of their parent's closest friends to celebrate their 35th wedding anniversary. Hosted by the Hill's good friends, Steve and Lori Lindsey, this was a site that brought tears of joy to everyone's eyes!

The Fall of 2008 didn’t bring much relief for us. We discovered that Heather’s mom was diagnosed with breast cancer. Our dog, who is really our only child, Petie, went into shock and nearly died, and would have died if not for our dear friend Lauren Cornwell. That was a rough couple of weeks, however, we are pleased to say, both Petie and Heather’s mom are doing quite well.

Speaking of the Cornwell’s, Heather’s best friend, Lauren, had her baby in November of 2008, welcome Campbell Cornwell; as did our other good friend, Emily Walton, having her baby in December, Harper Grace. We also are excited to welcome Ty Waldenville, Noah Goodnight and Ella Hartsock into our world. And speaking of babies, Heather and I found out that we were pregnant; and we have 3 tests to prove it! We also were able to celebrate the many pregnancies along with ours, inlcuding my brother Chris and his wife Tanya, as well as cousin Patrick and his wife Gretchen...and we thought the holidays were fun this year!

I am no longer at the DA’s office, but have since accepted a new position with Cimarex Energy here in Tulsa. Cimarex, an oil and gas exploration company, is an excellent company to work for, however, oil and gas have pretty much plummeted since I joined. I hope they don’t hold me responsible.

Of course we had the usual weddings and OU Football to fill our schedules; however we were able to be apart of Kinsey and Jared’s wedding, which was special. We also had our first OU Tailgate, it was a blast!

2009 looks to be a great year! New job, babies, another run at the National Championship, and I was also able to talk my good friend Brad and Ashley into moving to Tulsa, so we are excited about the next 12 months. It will be tiring and it will be hectic; but I am certain that it will be filled with lessons from above, and more importantly, His Grace to cover that in which we mess up.

But we are most excited to tell our story. Just 50 weeks back, this was a story we were not very fond of. It was far from a story we wanted to tell others, as it was hard enough, at the time, to hear for ourselves. However, as Heather's dad continues to defy the odds, and her mom has been declared the "best case scenario" by her doctor, we have a lot to be thankful for! We will live our lives affected by this cancer, but not infected by it. Our lives will continue, as our God continues. We will, through His strength, live strong!

Rob and Heather

2008-12-22T22:39:00.008-06:00

Emmanuel: God with Us!
We were reminded this past Sunday by our Pastor, Todd Craig, that in celebrating Christmas, we celebrate the fact that God is with us. That is what Emmanuel means, "God with Us." How appropriate, to be reminded in celebrating the birth of Christ, that God is indeed with us. He is with us through the celebrations of life, and He is with us through the challenges that life also tends to bring.

You know for many, us included, Christmas can be a time of mixed emotion. Sure, there is the excitement that comes with the holidays: days off from work/school, gift exchange, good food, good company, carols, and of course, football bowl games.

Yet Christmas can also be a time where tension among family members may be in the air; maybe it's the first Christmas since the passing of a loved one (or the holidays are just the constant reminder of that lost loved one); it could be that you are aware that this Christmas may be the last Christmas with a loved one; or rather than being close to one another, you are separated from your family by endless miles.

Each of us have our own set of challenges; however, it is necessary to be reminded, Emmanuel: God with Us. Some are victims of ill-health, others are in the midst of marital controversy, many find themselves giving in to some sort of addiction, and there are those who feel so alone they are overcome with depression; in each of these, we must cling onto Emmanuel: God with Us.

Especially in such economic times as these, we can struggle to know if we will hold onto our jobs, how the next bills will be paid, where our investments have gone; Emmanuel: God with Us.

Over this past year, our family has been dealt a difficult hand. However, we are assured that throughout this past year, God has been with us. When we look back, we can see how God has been with us. God has placed us in a church family where we are surrounded by those that have helped carry our burdens. Many in our community (aka Sunday school class) have also found themselves in the midst of struggling with their parents' ill health. Although you hate to see others around you going through the same pain and hurt, how amazing is our God, that He provides us with friends to experience such times with, Emmanuel: God with Us.

In this past year, we also are celebrating the blessing of expecting a child. Just as with our struggles, God has shown that He is with us, by once again surrounding us with friends that are also expecting, or have just delivered. Whether it be challenges or celebrations, Emmanuel: God with Us.

As Todd Craig closed his message this past Sunday, he encouraged each of us to come forward and light a candle. By lighting a candle we demonstrated our acknowledgment, that in this season, though aspects of our life seem impossible to deal with on our own, we can have confidence knowing, Emmanuel: God with Us. And as we stood back and observed the number of lit candles we were reassured that God's presence is found in each of us.

I hope you will take some time this week (and this entire season) to remember that we celebrate Christ's birth, not only as a miraculous moment in history that took place two thousand years back, but also as a reminder that Christ remains with us today, Emmanuel!

Celebrating His presence,
Rob and Heather

2008-12-07T16:00:00.005-06:00

Christmas Blessings
As many of you have heard (or read) already, our lives are quickly about to change...in a good way! Heather is pregnant. As you can imagine we are tremendously excited, and I am immensely terrified.

When Heather shared with me the exciting news, I immediately began a "to-do" list in my head of everything that needed to be done; I say immediately, but I think more accurately it was immediately after I recovered from the shock I began the "to-do" list. In fact, I still can barely talk about the baby without having my heart race rapidly and my blood pressure rise.

We are so excited! Adding to our excitement and assurance is God's timing of it all. Our baby is due June 26 (if you could only see me freaking out as I write this sentence!) And our little one will be blessed with 2 cousins within 6 weeks of age; My brother, Chris, and his wife Tanya are also expecting middle May; and cousin Patrick and Gretchen are expecting mid-May as well!

We are also hopefully excited that this baby, and the 7 months until the delivery (again wigging out!) will serve as sweet medicine for Heather's mom and dad. Sometimes when life strikes you as it has them this past year, the best medicine is having something to look forward to.

As we recognize God's blessings in our lives, we are truly blessed.
* We are blessed to have 3 sets of grandparents in waiting, each so very thrilled in what next summer holds.
* We are blessed to have so many friends that have preceded us in this journey, so we can seek their counsel and wisdom that only experience brings.
*We are blessed to have more than a handful of very close friends that will share this journey with us, as they will have, or have had, new babies within 8 months of our baby!
*We are blessed that as we spend time praying for this baby today, we are given the promise of God, that He is already preparing the way and making plans for this baby's life!

Our hope for you, this Christmas season, is that you will take time to reflect and give thanks to God for the blessings he has showered over your life.

Blessed,

Rob and Heather

2008-12-02T18:58:00.003-06:00

How I Met God at Hobby Lobby
Where have you met God? There’s no question that He appears in those expected places like a church’s sanctuary, in nature, and in hospital rooms. He also occasionally shows up in the most unexpected locations—like the checkout counter at Hobby Lobby.

Last week, as we prepared for the Thanksgiving holidays, our family was also planning a birthday celebration for our daughter Heather, who turned 27 the day after Thanksgiving. Needing some ribbon for birthday packages, I made a quick trip to Hobby Lobby on Monday afternoon.

As I was paying for the ribbon, Debby and Larry Burns were also checking out at the next register. Debby came over to give me a hug, wrapped her arms around me and shared that she continued to pray for both Jim and I. In her usual loving way (if you are blessed to know Debby, she just oozes with kindness!), she blessed me with her encouraging words.

I turned to pick up my package and the lady behind me in line tapped me on the shoulder. That’s when I met God. She said that she had overheard Debby’s concerns and prayers for us, and although she didn’t know my name, she would also be praying for me. She said she didn’t need to know my name because God knows my name and all my needs.

I barely made it to my car before the “tear dam” broke and I sobbed at this expression of God’s love. God is so good!

God also graced us with strength and energy for the holidays. Although Jim had experienced five difficult days with nausea and weakness the previous week, he fully enjoyed our family’s Thanksgiving and birthday celebrations.

This is “chemo week” for both of us; Jim received his treatment yesterday and I’m scheduled for Thursday. Thank you for your prayers that we both continue to tolerate the treatments and that the drugs are working to eradicate the cancer.

And finally, God continued to bless us beyond Hobby Lobby and Thanksgiving…

As Rob’s parents gathered with us for Heather’s birthday party, we were the ones who were surprised! Heather’s last gift was a t-shirt announcing she and Rob are expecting a baby next June! We even have our first picture of that precious gift from God—a framed ultrasound image. We are so blessed and so grateful to the many ways God shows His presence and His love.
We hope that your Thanksgiving was also full of “God Winks” and moments of His reassuring love for you. From our home to yours, from our hearts to your hearts, for blessings too many to count, we give thanks!

“Give thanks to the Lord, for He is good; His love endures forever.” 1 Chronicles 16:34

Blessed Abundantly!
Jim and Karen,
Holly, Heather, Rob (and Baby Sher!)

2008-11-17T22:57:00.003-06:00

And the greatest of these is …LOVE!

Day by Day. That phrase describes how we are living life these days. For someone who likes to plan and whose work depends on projecting dates into the future, it's been a difficult lesson to learn.

Even with these challenges, it's easy to see the blessings. I'm thankful that my job doesn't require me to be on a strict 8:00-5:00 schedule. That flexibility has allowed me to be here for Jim on those days when he is weak, confused or disoriented.

Lori and I returned to Norman from Houston on Friday, Oct 24; Jim was hospitalized on Sunday (10/26) for three days. Thanks to all those dear friends who stayed at the hospital with Jim—especially Lori and Holly for your overnight shifts. Since I had just had chemo, I was not allowed to be there with him. Although his protein levels were strong and his liver functions were improved, the extra fluids gave him some much needed strength.

His next chemo treatment is today, Monday, Nov 17. Thank you for your prayers for these treatments to eradicate the cancer and shrink his tumors.

As you may remember, I received my first chemo treatment in Houston on October 22. I've been blessed abundantly—have felt great, tolerated the chemo well and had my second treatment this past Thursday with Dr. Aleda Toma in OKC. The side effects have been minimal so I'm praying for that to continue.

Dr. Toma came highly recommended by my medical oncologist at MDA and after meeting her, I can certainly understand why he was so impressed. She is extremely personable and dedicated to her patients. I greatly appreciated her encouragement and know that her positive words will contribute to my healing. It was also assuring to know she has treated two other patients with my same diagnosis. We discovered that we had several mutual friends so that helped us to instantly connect. God continues to bless us with the gift of His presence and His guiding hand.

So these three things continue forever: faith, hope and love. And the greatest of these is love.
1 Corinthians 13:13

Faith
The words on my silver bracelet (thanks, Susie!) say it all: I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength. Philippians 4:13

In the difficult times, we may at times begin to doubt. There are no easy answers to the problems we face. Yet, we have a God who is deeply concerned about the trials we face.

I don't think He is a God who inflicts us with trials. I believe He is a compassionate God who cries when we cry and bears our burdens when we suffer. And He uses these trials to mold us into even more compassionate, loving individuals for His purposes.

Faith is the belief that God will do what is right. God says that the more hopeless your circumstances, the more likely, your salvation. The greater your cares, the more genuine your prayers. The darker the room, the greater the need for light.

Hope
For surely I know the plans I have for you, says the Lord, plans for your welfare and not for harm, to give you a future and a hope. Jeremiah 29:11

We are looking forward with hope to the holidays, spending joyful time with our family and friends and resting in the plans and places He has for us in this new season.

We fully believe that if God brings you to it - He will bring you through it.

Love
I give you a new command: Love each other. You must love each other as I have loved you. John 13:34

Our hearts are full of the many expressions of love with which you have blessed us. Your encouraging emails, cards, calls, prayers and hugs give us renewed strength for this journey.

The extraordinary meals that have been so generously shared over the past MANY weeks. Lee Hall, you are a SAINT to have taken on this loving task of coordination.

The love that has extended from our McFarlin Crossroads Class (and Asbury, Bethel, Trinity and others) models the best in Christian community. Thanks for rising above the level of casual Christianity and living for God and those He cares so much about in this broken world. YOU make God smile!

For all your prayers, support, and encouragement, we give thanks to the One from whom all blessings flow. Know that He has used YOU to give us faith, hope and love.

Blessed by the greatest of these, your Love!

Love,

Jim and Karen,

Holly, Heather and Rob

The First Blog

2008-11-06T20:30:00.006-06:00

So I have always been a bit, lets say, skeptical, about those who "blogged." Basically for two main reasons...(A) I mean who reads these things? Well, apparently millions of people do, everyday; and my wife is one of them. And (B) what do I have to say, what story do I have to tell?

Ahh, how about the story of a family, struck by cancer, not once, but twice: first the Dad, and then 6 months later, the Mom. How about that family's shock, struggles, and resilience. How about that family's faith and intentionality in giving this cancer a purpose, a purpose that would bring Glory to God.

Do you know how difficult that task can be....at times? But interestingly enough, it also seems to be the most natural response for this family.

This blog promises to be a dialog, or maybe a "diablog," which includes all gammits of emotion. You will laugh, you will cry, (as we will do the same authoring it), but more importantly, you will hopefully be encouraged.

Each of us have situations and circumstances in life that we are unable to control; however, one thing, if the only thing, we can control is our reaction to these challenges. This is the story of our reaction.

2008-02-18T23:57:00.001-06:00

a week that changed our lives
We feel your prayers, and ask that they continue to be lifted up. Not much has changed in the past day or so, especially in light of all the change that the past week has entailed. Today, at some point, we should get a bit more of the specifics from the oncologist, however, we know that only God knows the plans that He has made for Jim and our family! Pray that we can seek His will, and take assuredness in what that may be!

I came back into Tulsa yesterday afternoon, while Heather stayed in Norman for a bit longer to make sure all was taken care of. This obviously adds a different element for Heather and I to be apart, in a time when she and her family need so much encouragement and support! Pray for Heather's strength.

Jim is recovering from surgery well, however, the pain medication can make him loopy and sometimes a very difficult patient. Pray for Jim to relax and have a peace come about him.

Once again, I am going to send you the words of Heather's last email, as it will hopefully provide some insight in to where we are at, medically speaking.

thanks for your continued thoughts and prayers, like i started this email off with, keep em coming (which coincidently, is the same thing we are telling Jim about his farts, "keep em coming" - read below for explanation)!

rjs

2008-02-18T23:30:00.002-06:00

7 days, 168 hours, never the same again
As mom my said this morning, "It's just been a week--7 days--168 hours. How can life change so quickly? It certainly gives new meaning to "Carpe Diem"--SEIZE THE DAY!"

I apologize I have not updated in a few days but once we get home, all I want to do is go to bed and we keep [retty busy at the hospital. Today we completed post operative day 3 and the doctor said this morning dad is "textbook" if not progressing better. He continues to sleep most of the day, being awakened frequently for all sorts of things and quickly dozes back to sleep. Although we would like to take advantage of the time we are spending together, if he is comfortable- we are pleased! Tomorrow the anesthesiologist will remove his epidural and allow him to not feel so sedated all the time. We now pray his pain can be adequately controlled without the epidural!

A nurse aide commented today "he sure hasn't lost a sense of humor!" For those of you who don't know dad, he is quite the comedian! Despite his sleepiness, he continues to keep us all entertained. You never know what he is going to say when he wakes up- usually a guaranteed laugh though which is so comforting in a time like this that we can find something to bring a smile to our faces. One of my favorite stories so far took place the first day after his surgery. Dad had been begging me for something to eat, and I kept reminding him that he could only have ice chips and popsicles until such time that his colon was "working again." He said, "Heather, make me a sign! I want it to say: Will Fart for Food!" Needless to say, my wonderful father in law made the sign which hangs directly behind his bed. Our other good news is his bowels did wake up yesterday so we are moving forward with liquids and hopefully to solids by Monday. Who would have ever thought a fart would bring a tear of happiness to my eye!

We received the pathology back from his procedures and it was consistent with what they had imagined. The cancer in his colon is an adenocarcinoma and the biopsy of his liver was as well. This is a good thing because it means the liver/lungs is a metastasis and not another random kind of cancer that would change everything. Our oncologist is out of town so we met her partner today. She was very nice but said very little so we hope to learn more on Monday when Dr. Dagg returns.

Our plan is to hopefully be discharged from the hospital by Wednesday. The surgeon will put in a port for dad's chemotherapy prior to discharge from the hospital so back to the OR. Fortunately, this is a pretty simple procedure. Rob will head back to Tulsa tomorrow (Sunday) and I am planning on staying at least until dad gets discharged to help mom. Then, lots of road trips to Norman once we start chemo in a few weeks.As always, thank you for everything! We continue to get by each day by the grace of God and the love and support from YOU! I can't wait to share everything we have experienced with dad and for him to be able thank each one of you when we FULLY recover from this...and we will! We love you!

Blessings,

Heather and Rob

2008-02-12T22:38:00.001-06:00

Cancer Confirmed
thank you for the prayers!

although today did not hold all the answers that we had originally had hoped it might, the day did bring us up to speed as to what the next step had to be. Jim had his colonoscopy (sp?) this morning, in which they found a large obstruction that was malignant. The good, now we know the source of the internal bleeding, and the cancer, and now we can attack it. The bad, he goes into surgery tomorrow to remove the tumor, and that can obviously carry complications.

So as to what we have ahead of us. First, we need a clean and successful surgery. Then after the source is removed, we wait approx. 3 weeks to begin extensive chemotherapy, to attack the cancer that has already spread to the lungs and the liver. Obviously, the next couple of weeks are imperative that things go well. Also, we need the cancer that has already spread to slow down a bit, to allow for the recovery of the surgery. The oncologist suggests, however, that the bright-side of an aggressive cancer like this, is that it tends to be highly reactive to chemo.

We still have a very steep up-hill climb ahead of us, and need some things to go right, in order to have the successful result that is so badly desired. However, I know that today, both Heather and I felt the Peace of the Holy Spirit, almost as if God was laying the ground work to begin His miraculous healing. I know that Karen also feels His presence, as she attempts to face the days ahead.

I cannot think those of you enough that have continued to outpour from your hearts the love, prayers, scripture, encouraging words, and willingness to do anything and everything. From one perspective we were not prepared for the challenges and obstacles that God has placed in front of us; however, in the same regard, look at how God the Father has prepared us.... (1) From the foundation of our Faith, God began preparing us by directing us to Trust in Him, (2) from the blessings he has showered our family with, with friends that are compassionate and passionate for Lord, God prepared our lives with fellow believers to call on when we need prayers; (3) and with a medical staff that is not only exceptionally trained, but that have a personal and invested interest in doing their very best for their fellow colleague and friend, Jim, God hand picked the staff and prepared them for the duty at hand. It is truly amazing, when you look back, seeing just exactly how God has prepared us for this challenge.

1 Corinthians 2:9-10 (New International Version)
v9. However, as it is written: "No eye has seen, no ear has heard, no mind has conceived what God has prepared for those who love him"[a]— 10but God has revealed it to us by his Spirit. The Spirit searches all things, even the deep things of God."

thank you for being apart of the preparation, and thanks again for being apart of the here and now! As things change I will continue to try and keep you updated.

thanks again!
rjs

2008-02-11T22:51:00.006-06:00

Where it All Began...The First Email
Dear friends-

We just got home from another full day of emotions at the hospital. As of today, I still feel like we know very little from when we began just 48 hours ago.

To brief those of you who do not know, my dad has been intermittently "under the weather" over the last month. His pain seemed to be progressing this week as the color in his skin diminished. Our wonderful doctor and best friend ran dozens of lab tests earlier this last week to see what was causing this. Never in my wildest dreams did I think I would ever be writing an email like this. The main thing we learned from the lab results was that dad was having significant bleeding internally. Friday he had a CT scan of his abdomen to determine where the bleeding was coming from because his pain was primarily in his abdomen. We were hoping for a bleeding ulcer- unfortunately what they found was a large mass on his liver and several spots on the bases of his lungs. We learned all this information on Saturday.

He was admitted to the oncology floor yesterday in order to perform more diagnostic tests, receive several units of blood, and for assistance with pain control. Since his admission he has had a CT of his chest in order to see if the cancer was anywhere beside the base of his lungs (the first CT showed only the bases). We got the results today and it showed multiple pinpoint spots covering both his lungs but no progression in his liver. Our first bit of good news came this morning after an EGD (scope of his upper GI tract) and it all came back negative. Tomorrow morning he will undergo a colonoscopy (for those of you who know Big Jim you know he is not excited about that!) The doctors concern at this point is that the liver and lungs are both secondary sites in which the cancer has metastasized too. This is mainly because dad has little to no reason he would have ever developed either liver or lung cancer. Our fear is that the cancer originated in his colon and has spread to these two additional sites rapidly. If the colonoscopy is negative (please pray), they will perform a needle biopsy of his liver tomorrow afternoon so we can learn more about the cancer and what the treatment may entail.

I write this email not to just inform you of all that is going on, but to ask for an outpouring of prayer over my father tomorrow and all the days ahead. Tomorrow is a huge day for our family and we are asking for strength as we learn what God's will is for my daddy and our family. I am terrified, deeply saddened, and struggling to stay strong for my family and especially my dad. Thank you to each and every one of you who have called, text, and most importantly prayed. I truly believe in the power of prayer and the miracles God is capable of. We have witnessed His goodness in so many ways and hope these miracles are showered upon dad.

I always knew God had blessed me with the best friends in the world but each and every hour of the last two days, that has become more and more evident. I will be in touch tomorrow evening and let you know how the day goes. Thank you again for being a part of this time.

Blessings,

heather sher